You become who you surrounded yourself with

Hello my gorgeous Rebels,

Welcome back to The Hearthveil Stories,The place where we talk about Habits, Mindsets, Self-Care, and Mental Health all the things that help you build a peaceful yet powerful life.

In today’s blog, I’m diving into something real and raw:

how toxic people quietly destroy your mindset.

This topic is close to my heart because I’ve lived through it and I want to help you spot the signs and protect your energy before it’s too late.

And in case you missed my last vlog about tapping into your Main Character Energy,

don’t worry I’ll link it below so you can check it out when you’re ready for that glow-up!

https://the-hearthveil-stories.blogspot.com/2025/06/you-are-main-character-start-living.html

It’s not always your fault.

The reason you feel constantly sad, angry, or drained and even start doing toxic things might not be because of you.It’s because of the people you’re surrounded by.

I know this because I’ve lived it.There was a time when I was full of negative thoughts. I acted in ways I wasn’t proud of. I became someone I didn’t recognize. And the truth is it wasn’t just me.

It was the toxic energy I was absorbing from the people around me.In my case, it was my friends. People I trusted.They had a huge influence on me. And the dangerous part? When you believe someone is your “true friend,” you naturally start copying what they do. You assume it’s okay even when it’s not.

I didn’t realize the things we were doing were actually hurting my peace, my mindset, and my growth.

The Influence of Toxic People

Toxic people normalize things like gossip, jealousy, comparison, and laziness and the scary part is, they make it all feel so casual, like it’s just part of everyday life. But what you don’t realize at first is that being around that kind of energy slowly changes you. You begin to laugh at things you once found wrong. You start talking about others behind their backs, just to feel included. You compare yourself constantly, feel small around them, and yet still choose to stay because you’ve been made to believe that this is what friendship or love looks like. Most toxic conversations are built on gossip not just meaningless talk, but deeply unhealthy patterns of spreading fake stories and invading someone’s private life. And here’s the truth: if they gossip with you, they’ll eventually gossip about you. The moment you step away, they will talk about you the same way they talked about others. And yet, while you're still inside that circle, you don’t even notice it. You feel drained, unmotivated, insecure but you think it's your fault. Toxic relationships and friendships drain your emotional energy, lower your confidence, and convince you that you are the problem. Over time, you begin to normalize all of it. And that’s when it becomes dangerous because you’ve forgotten who you were before you let that energy in.

When I Realized I Needed to Let Go

Self-care played a huge role in my change. The more I focused on taking care of myself, the more I began to disconnect from the habits and people that were hurting me. When I started choosing peace whether through a quiet skincare routine or simply spending time alone I noticed that the gossiping stopped, the chaos faded, and I began to step away from those toxic friendships that once felt impossible to leave. That space I created? It led me toward positivity. And here’s what I learned: when you finally step out of that toxic circle, your life shifts. You start to feel lighter, clearer, and more in control of your energy. If they’re constantly humiliating you, gossiping, making fun of others, or draining your peace why are you still maintaining that friendship? Why protect something that’s not protecting you? First, you have to build a healthy, loving friendship with yourself. Only then will you attract healthier connections into your life. So if a friendship, relationship, or connection is draining you more than it’s supporting you please let it go. You’re not meant to carry what’s breaking you.

How I Rebuilt My Mindset

I didn’t replace toxic people with perfect people  I replaced them with silence, with books, with skincare, and with dreams. I chose peace over performance. I chose healing over fitting in. And slowly, I rebuilt my mindset piece by piece. I realized that I didn’t need noise, drama, or approval to feel worthy. What I needed was space to grow. You are allowed to walk away. You are allowed to protect your energy  because you deserve peace, not pressure. You can start small. Compliment others instead of tearing them down. Speak kindness, not gossip. It might feel strange at first, but trust me it makes their day better and it makes your soul lighter. Because the truth is: you can’t bloom in soil that’s poisoning your roots. So change your circle. Change your environment. And watch how your entire life begins to grow.

Self love never quits. Neither should you